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Set­tle
Verb Phrases
set­tle for, to be sat­is­fied with: to set­tle for less.

Is it a bad thing to set­tle? Is our list of things we want in a mate just too damn much long? I have been think­ing about this lately. Ever since I went to see the movie “Up in the Air” and one of the best scenes in the movie, the younger female lead actress speaks about set­tling and how it is a bad thing (by def­i­n­i­tion she says). Won’t I regret it later on in life if I set­tle? I can’t call it. I admit, some­times it is lit­tle things that really bother me about ladies here and there.

Let me give you an exam­ple. It’s a pretty small exam­ple, but still gets my point across. There was some­one who I have been admir­ing from afar and we are in the same group activ­ity together. Lately she had been impress­ing me with her com­mit­ment to our group and attend­ing all of our weekly meet­ings. Note she has a his­tory in the past of being flaky and just not show­ing up or rsvp’ing a decline when the group really needed her. Very lit­tle issue but just a sign of flak­i­ness. My feel­ing is don’t com­mit to some­thing if you are not going to attend reg­u­larly when the group is depend­ing on you on a weekly basis. So tonight, she flaked again. I fig­ured maybe she had a large amount of home­work to do or maybe had to stay late at work. Nope, she had to do laun­dry. Hmmm … seems like she has regressed her true col­ors are showing.

Am I over­re­act­ing? This lit­tle inci­dent both­ers me because I see this as a sign of what one might do with more major events than a group activ­ity. This would be enough to just write her off and for­get about pur­su­ing my admiration.

What do you think?

Image cour­test of S-Nocturnus’