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My 2010 To Do List


2009
12.24


Here is the list of 10 things I will do with regard to dat­ing in 2010. 2009 has been some­what of a rough year so I wish and aim to make 2010 a more pos­i­tive year. The goal of this list is to make sure these goals are track-able and can be reviewed to see if they are suc­cess­ful or not through­out the year. I expect you to hold me account­able as I try to hold myself accountable.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try some­thing new.

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the cur­rent time.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

What do we think? Any more I should add to the list? Meet me in the com­ments section.

Next Attempt: Chem​istry​.com


2009
12.07

Online Dating Sites

I noticed this past week­end that Chem​istry​.com was hav­ing a free com­mu­ni­ca­tions week­end, so I decided to check it out. If you don’t know, Chem​istry​.com is Match’s ver­sion of eHar­mony, for the peo­ple try­ing to find love. I tried it once two years ago for the per­son­al­ity test, and then never went back on the site. When it first started, I didn’t like the lay­out, and there weren’t that many peo­ple on it, so I never gave it a chance.

This time around, I must say that I was impressed. The visual UI is great and it’s easy to nav­i­gate. Like eHar­mony, Chem​istry​.com goes through a series of steps before you can have open com­mu­ni­ca­tion with some­one, but it’s so much more user friendly and less time consuming.

So far, there are three guys who I like. The one I like the most is geeky (the way I like them), so I am hop­ing that he responds back to the short answers I sent him. I am now ask­ing guys up front if they are emo­tion­ally healthy because the last guy I was into turned out to be a HOT MESS!

Def­i­nitely will keep you updated on how Chem​istry​.com turns out.

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Online Dating vs. Matchmakers


2009
10.16

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Online dat­ing can be a daunt­ing expe­ri­ence, espe­cially when you are being intro­duced to dat­ing after a long hia­tus. You sift through tons of pro­files, and respond to the ones you like. You finally decide to meet one of the poten­tials and decide on a meet­ing spot. After one (or pos­si­bly two dates), you never hear from that per­son again. This con­tin­ues until you are ready to give up and crawl into a dark hole. You don’t know what else to do. You are a highly suc­cess­ful sin­gle who has a busy life and hasn’t found much suc­cess in leav­ing it up to des­tiny. Addi­tion­ally, you are selec­tive in who you date and want to find some­one who com­ple­ments you. What other alter­na­tive is there? Match­mak­ing ser­vices are a great way to find high-quality sin­gles in your area. Match­mak­ers pro­vide a per­son­al­ized ser­vice that will elim­i­nate that headache and time caused by online dating.

Prob­lem #1: Fake profiles

You come across the per­fect pro­file. She is beau­ti­ful, intel­li­gent, and has a great per­son­al­ity. You mes­sage her and hopes she responds back. Two things either occur: 1. She turns out to be a porn or strip­per ser­vice try­ing to lure you into using them or 2. You meet her in per­son, and she is a com­plete oppo­site of what you saw online.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers meet each individual

By using a match­mak­ing ser­vice, you elim­i­nate these issues because the match­mak­ing team meets each and every indi­vid­ual who wants to use them. They screen and run back­ground checks on every­one to make sure that they are legit. It’s great because you don’t waste time with spam­mers and peo­ple mis­rep­re­sent­ing them­selves, which is a huge relief.

Prob­lem #2: No help in find­ing the right match

If you are being intro­duced to dat­ing, you are pretty much clue­less as to how to go about it. Wouldn’t it be great to have some­one assist­ing you through the entire process? Some online dat­ing ser­vices claim they offer help in find­ing the right match, but they are usu­ally generic advice that is offered to every­one. Not every­one is going to date the same, so it really doesn’t do much in the end.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers are your guides

Match­mak­ers are with you every step of the way. They offer you advice on things you are doing well and need some adjust­ing. Their advice is tai­lored to your needs, so you are not get­ting the advice some­one else received. Addi­tion­ally, they fol­low up with you after the date. You never feel like you are going through this dat­ing process alone because there is always some­one they’re check­ing up on you. You are never alone to decide because there is always some­one there to assist you.

Prob­lem #3: Iden­tity theft is an issue

Iden­tity theft is an increas­ing issue in this coun­try. Online dat­ing ser­vices are not able to fully pro­tect you from this crime because there is no back­ground checks run on the peo­ple using them. There­fore, there is no ver­i­fi­ca­tion of iden­ti­fi­ca­tion, so you never know who these peo­ple really are. Addi­tion­ally, there are no fed­eral reg­u­la­tions on how online dat­ing ser­vices should be used and who is using them.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers make sure they know the peo­ple they are work­ing with

As stated pre­vi­ously, match­mak­ers run thor­ough check on every­one who uses their ser­vice. They want to ensure that they have the best peo­ple in their com­mu­nity. We’ve all heard hor­ror sto­ries about rape that has occurred dur­ing online dat­ing. By using a match­maker, you min­i­mize this tragedy from hap­pen­ing because the match­maker knows whom they are deal­ing with on a per­sonal level.

Prob­lem #4: The frus­tra­tion of deal­ing with profiles

Pro­files can be a frus­trat­ing expe­ri­ence. One thing is that the more appeal­ing peo­ple get flooded with emails, which frus­trates them, and they quit. This causes many pro­files to appear as active, when they really aren’t. There­fore, you never know if the per­son you write is ignor­ing you, or just stopped using the service.

Solu­tion: Every­one you meet is real

Peo­ple who use match­mak­ing ser­vices pay a good amount to be part of the com­mu­nity. Addi­tion­ally, the match­mak­ing team speaks to each and every per­son, so you never have to waste your time check­ing out a pro­file, only to find out that there is no one behind it.

Prob­lem #5: Won­der­ing if per­son wants a seri­ous relationship

With online dat­ing, you never know if the per­son wants a seri­ous rela­tion­ship unless they write in their pro­file. There is also the risk that the per­son is really mar­ried and is try­ing to com­mit adultery.

Solu­tion: Peo­ple using match­mak­ing ser­vices are usu­ally look­ing for a long-term relationship

If you went to a match­maker, then that means you are seri­ous. No one who doesn’t want a seri­ous rela­tion­ship would waste their time using a match­maker, espe­cially with all the other dat­ing ser­vice alter­na­tives out there. You always have a sense of hope using match­mak­ers because many of the headaches caused by online dat­ing go away.