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Lone­li­ness is defined as : affected with, char­ac­ter­ized by, or caus­ing a depress­ing feel­ing of being alone; lonesome.

Whit­ney Hous­ton once sang “I’d rather be alone than unhappy. ”

Oh really? Being lonely is such a tough emo­tion to describe and to come to terms with. I know many a mar­ried peo­ple who suf­fer from extreme lone­li­ness. Even some­one who has a boyfriend or girl­friend can be lonely. I could be sit­ting next to my best friend in life and have my heart ache from lone­li­ness. Peo­ple turn to drugs and alco­hol to com­bat the lonely feel­ing. Peo­ple stay in mar­riages to avoid being alone. Peo­ple change who they are to run from that lonely feeling.

In my younger years I hung out with a crew just so I would not be alone. It took me two or three years to wake up and real­ize it’s ok to go to the movies alone … It’s ok to eat at a restau­rant alone. All of this because of the fear of being alone. The sci­en­tific term for this is mono­pho­bia. I can’t lie though. My biggest fear in life is grow­ing old alone. Scares me half to death. How sad would that be?

Per­son­ally, I don’t know the cure for lon­li­ness. I fig­ure some self con­fi­dence,  diverse set of hob­bies, and some good friends on speed dial or buddy list is a good start. I will cau­tion you though, it is not the cure all. I have a good amount of self con­fi­dence, very high qual­ity friends and some cool hob­bies yet I suf­fer from a case of being lonely on many, many nights.

One of my favorite movie scenes that indi­rectly speaks about being alone is from the movie “Bounce” with Gwen­neth Pal­trow and Ben Affleck. Heis char­ac­ter talks about sim­ply want­ing a “last call” at night. Not the last call from a bar when it is almost time to go, but rather some­one to talk to right before you go to bed. A last call. Speak­ing to this per­son eases your mind and elim­i­nates any lonely feel­ing in your sub­con­scious before doz­ing off to sleep. I would love a last call.

This post may seem a bit ram­bling but that is exactly how a lonely per­sons mind func­tions. So many ques­tions pop up. So many ran­dom thoughts trickle through their head. Like a mile a minute.  And then … The ques­tions stop … The thoughts stop … And you are alone …