HeartBrakeHotel » Loneliness http://heartbrakehotel.com he said/she said love and dating conversations Thu, 18 Mar 2010 01:47:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 Loneliness and the Holidays http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/11/30/loneliness-and-the-holidays/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/11/30/loneliness-and-the-holidays/#comments Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:56:09 +0000 Clementine http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/11/30/loneliness-and-the-holidays/ The holidays are here, and this is usually when singles start feeling the loneliest. You start thinking about the times that you had someone with you to snuggle up with and buy presents to during this time. Now, you don’t. I know that is what I’m feeling. Yes, I am dating Short Guy, but it’s [...]]]> love.

The holidays are here, and this is usually when singles start feeling the loneliest. You start thinking about the times that you had someone with you to snuggle up with and buy presents to during this time. Now, you don’t. I know that is what I’m feeling. Yes, I am dating Short Guy, but it’s a new relationship (if I can even call it that), and this is around the time when Mr. Big and I ended it due to Julie Gianni. There isn’t a day that passes that I don’t miss him. He had everything that I wanted, and I hate that I compare everyone to him. I wonder if all thoughts of him will ever leave my mind. I hope that they do, but I don’t think it will be any time soon.

This holiday season I plan on enjoying my time with loved ones and doing all the things that I love doing. Keeping busy and being surrounded by people who love me and don’t run away is a good way to battle this loneliness that creeps up around this time. Definitely plan on doing the same if you feel lonely.


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At work, I started working with this guy. The problem? He looks and acts like my ex. The ex who still haunts my dream, and I have loved more than any man. I am really dreading working with this guy any longer. He makes me think about my ex more than I should. It’s crazy how everything about this man reminds me of him:

The way he walks, his clothes, his cocky attitude, his smile, the way he bites his bottom lip when he is thinking, the way he stares at me, how serious he is when he is talking, but in a second, he begins to smirk

I can tell he is interested in me, but this doppleganger makes me want to run the other way. It makes me think about how obsessed and blind I was. When this doppleganger talks and stares at me, I feel the urge to passionately kiss him, but then I remember that he isn’t my ex. All that is left is this feeling of loneliness that has creeped up on me.

What should you do if you work for someone who reminds you of your ex? All you can do is grin and bear it. One thing I have started to do is not look at this man as much as I was before. If I feel myself thinking about my ex, I quickly think about something else. Keeping busy is key.

Will this lonely feeling go away? It will when I stop working with this man. Let’s just hope that it’s soon.


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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/09/09/doppleganger-of-ex-running-around/feed/ 2 Reblog this post [with Zemanta] Loneliness is a Killer http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/09/07/loneliness/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2009/09/07/loneliness/#comments Tue, 08 Sep 2009 06:11:46 +0000 Clementine http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=42 Loneliness is defined as : affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome. Whitney Houston once sang “I’d rather be alone than unhappy. ” Oh really? Being lonely is such a tough emotion to describe and to come to terms with. I know many a married people who suffer from extreme loneliness. [...]]]> dog alone on beach

Loneliness is defined as : affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome.

Whitney Houston once sang “I’d rather be alone than unhappy. ”

Oh really? Being lonely is such a tough emotion to describe and to come to terms with. I know many a married people who suffer from extreme loneliness. Even someone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend can be lonely. I could be sitting next to my best friend in life and have my heart ache from loneliness. People turn to drugs and alcohol to combat the lonely feeling. People stay in marriages to avoid being alone. People change who they are to run from that lonely feeling.

In my younger years I hung out with a crew just so I would not be alone. It took me two or three years to wake up and realize it’s ok to go to the movies alone … It’s ok to eat at a restaurant alone. All of this because of the fear of being alone. The scientific term for this is monophobia. I can’t lie though. My biggest fear in life is growing old alone. Scares me half to death. How sad would that be?

Personally, I don’t know the cure for lonliness. I figure some self confidence,  diverse set of hobbies, and some good friends on speed dial or buddy list is a good start. I will caution you though, it is not the cure all. I have a good amount of self confidence, very high quality friends and some cool hobbies yet I suffer from a case of being lonely on many, many nights.

One of my favorite movie scenes that indirectly speaks about being alone is from the movie “Bounce” with Gwenneth Paltrow and Ben Affleck. Heis character talks about simply wanting a “last call” at night. Not the last call from a bar when it is almost time to go, but rather someone to talk to right before you go to bed. A last call. Speaking to this person eases your mind and eliminates any lonely feeling in your subconscious before dozing off to sleep. I would love a last call.

This post may seem a bit rambling but that is exactly how a lonely persons mind functions. So many questions pop up. So many random thoughts trickle through their head. Like a mile a minute.  And then … The questions stop … The thoughts stop … And you are alone …


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