What do you do when a guy doesn’t call? I’ve had this happen to me over and over again. It’s gotten to the point that I expect that the guy will never call me back. The worst is when you get a call from him months (even years) later saying that he had so much going on during that time, so that is the reason he never called. When this happens to me, I usually don’t even attempt to give the guy a second chance. You already screwed me over once, so why should I even try again?

However, is this wrong of me? Everyone has gone through things where they knew that there was no point of starting a relationship, even if the person was awesome. But, shouldn’t he have know that before he even went on a date with me? I know that I have become overly harsh with guys. I think it’s cause I have been hurt more than I have ever been hurt by my two exes that I am afraid to give anything a chance. Every time I feel like I should be positive and take a risk, it backfires on me. Do I keep trying? Or do I give up?

Today I have a date with this guy, and I am trying to remain positive, but I feel like if I put too much thought into it, he won’t be anything but another of those one-date wonder. Let’s hope that I am wrong.

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First dates can be frightening. It’s worse when it’s a blind or online date. This weekend I went on my first date from eHarmony. I was nervous for a couple of reasons: 1. It was my first date since March from an online dating site and 2. I was feeling a little down cause of how my ex totally dissed me. However, I tried to brush these fears aside and be optimistic.

It was pouring that day. I usually see rain as washing away all your troubles and the past, so I was kind of happy that it was.  When I was in the car, I saw this tall, good-looking guy going into the coffee shop that we were meeting at.  I hoped that it was him.  When I went in, he smiled at me.

“Clementine?”

I nodded.  He asked what I wanted.

“Medium Caramel High Rise.”

He smiled.

“That’s what I ordered.”

I thanked him for the coffee. Side Note: ALWAYS thank a guy for paying, even if it’s a piece of chocolate. They do remember this kind of stuff.

We sat down and talked.  While he talked, I had to contain my smile.  It dawned on me that I had butterflies in my stomach.  This is a feeling I had not felt since G., so I was mesmerized.

Two hours flew by and we were still talking.  He was hanging out with his friend, who had not gone out since his baby was born, so he had to leave. 

Another Side Note:  A guy who is surrounded by married friends is usually more apt to want to settle down compared to guys who just hang out with other single guys. 

We made plans for our second date.  It has been a very long time, but I am excited for this one.  Let’s just hope that he calls.

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