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Why Didn’t He Call Me After First Date?


2009
09.30

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What do you do when a guy doesn’t call? I’ve had this hap­pen to me over and over again. It’s got­ten to the point that I expect that the guy will never call me back. The worst is when you get a call from him months (even years) later say­ing that he had so much going on dur­ing that time, so that is the rea­son he never called. When this hap­pens to me, I usu­ally don’t even attempt to give the guy a sec­ond chance. You already screwed me over once, so why should I even try again?

How­ever, is this wrong of me? Every­one has gone through things where they knew that there was no point of start­ing a rela­tion­ship, even if the per­son was awe­some. But, shouldn’t he have know that before he even went on a date with me? I know that I have become overly harsh with guys. I think it’s cause I have been hurt more than I have ever been hurt by my two exes that I am afraid to give any­thing a chance. Every time I feel like I should be pos­i­tive and take a risk, it back­fires on me. Do I keep try­ing? Or do I give up?

Today I have a date with this guy, and I am try­ing to remain pos­i­tive, but I feel like if I put too much thought into it, he won’t be any­thing but another of those one-date won­der. Let’s hope that I am wrong.

SUCCESS: First eHarmony Date


2009
08.24

 

First dates can be fright­en­ing. It’s worse when it’s a blind or online date. This week­end I went on my first date from eHar­mony. I was ner­vous for a cou­ple of rea­sons: 1. It was my first date since March from an online dat­ing site and 2. I was feel­ing a lit­tle down cause of how my ex totally dissed me. How­ever, I tried to brush these fears aside and be optimistic.

It was pour­ing that day. I usu­ally see rain as wash­ing away all your trou­bles and the past, so I was kind of happy that it was.  When I was in the car, I saw this tall, good-looking guy going into the cof­fee shop that we were meet­ing at.  I hoped that it was him.  When I went in, he smiled at me.

Clemen­tine?”

I nod­ded.  He asked what I wanted.

Medium Caramel High Rise.”

He smiled.

That’s what I ordered.”

I thanked him for the cof­fee. Side Note: ALWAYS thank a guy for pay­ing, even if it’s a piece of choco­late. They do remem­ber this kind of stuff.

We sat down and talked.  While he talked, I had to con­tain my smile.  It dawned on me that I had but­ter­flies in my stom­ach.  This is a feel­ing I had not felt since G., so I was mesmerized.

Two hours flew by and we were still talk­ing.  He was hang­ing out with his friend, who had not gone out since his baby was born, so he had to leave. 

Another Side Note:  A guy who is sur­rounded by mar­ried friends is usu­ally more apt to want to set­tle down com­pared to guys who just hang out with other sin­gle guys. 

We made plans for our sec­ond date.  It has been a very long time, but I am excited for this one.  Let’s just hope that he calls.

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