1) End the use of eharmony.com when my subscription expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice people and even dated a handful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in following the eharmony process (translation burned out), so I must move on and try something new.

2) Engage in one social activity per week. This means getting out to a party, happy hour, concert, networking event … something that is social and out among old and new friends.

3) Try a new online dating source as they become more and more possible. Chemistry.com is a leading contender at the current time.

4) Take one class that will further engage me in a social atmosphere. I am thinking about either a cooking class or perhaps a dance (salsa) class.

5) Try speed dating one time.

6) Continue to more actively post entries on this blog regarding my dating life. This has turned into a great source of therapy for myself.

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie viewing club to first grow my interest in movies and also to attempt to meet other people ladies interested in the same thing.

8 ) Continue to participate in promising social sporting activies (soccer, yoga) which lend themselves to genuine meetings.

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warning signs when (attempting to) dating someone.

10) Try to release all worry about meeting someone and do my best not to dwell on current circumstances and develop a more positive outlook. (This will by far be the most difficult and hardest to track).

What do we think? Any more I should add to the list? Meet me in the comments section.

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First dates can be frightening. It’s worse when it’s a blind or online date. This weekend I went on my first date from eHarmony. I was nervous for a couple of reasons: 1. It was my first date since March from an online dating site and 2. I was feeling a little down cause of how my ex totally dissed me. However, I tried to brush these fears aside and be optimistic.

It was pouring that day. I usually see rain as washing away all your troubles and the past, so I was kind of happy that it was.  When I was in the car, I saw this tall, good-looking guy going into the coffee shop that we were meeting at.  I hoped that it was him.  When I went in, he smiled at me.

“Clementine?”

I nodded.  He asked what I wanted.

“Medium Caramel High Rise.”

He smiled.

“That’s what I ordered.”

I thanked him for the coffee. Side Note: ALWAYS thank a guy for paying, even if it’s a piece of chocolate. They do remember this kind of stuff.

We sat down and talked.  While he talked, I had to contain my smile.  It dawned on me that I had butterflies in my stomach.  This is a feeling I had not felt since G., so I was mesmerized.

Two hours flew by and we were still talking.  He was hanging out with his friend, who had not gone out since his baby was born, so he had to leave. 

Another Side Note:  A guy who is surrounded by married friends is usually more apt to want to settle down compared to guys who just hang out with other single guys. 

We made plans for our second date.  It has been a very long time, but I am excited for this one.  Let’s just hope that he calls.

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leaving the past behind you…, originally uploaded by Jeffrey Eric.

Every self-help book that I have read has the same philosophy when it comes to the past. Leave it behind. You will never be able to move forward if you are still dwelling on it. It’s something that I keep getting better at doing in all parts of my life, except my love life.

I keep thinking about two of my exes, and I know that I won’t be able to find someone who I can be in a healthy relationship with until I forget them. They were both detrimental to my emotional and physical health, so I know that I can’t keep thinking about them. Out of two, I will have to say that L. is the one I really have to stop thinking about. Our three-year relationship was filled with her constant cheating, lies, and psychological imbalance. She was abusive and mean. I know that she hasn’t changed, even though she says she has, so I don’t know why it’s so hard to stop thinking about this girl.

It’s hard when it’s someone of the same gender. She is not just your lover; she is also your best friend. With a guy, you can mope around for a bit, but eventually, you get up and keep going. With a woman, you feel like you have no one, especially when you alienated everyone to the point that it was just you two.

I am slowly forgetting about her cause I know that she has ridiculous issues. A month ago, I joined eHarmony, and I am meeting some amazing guys. There are three that I am really interested in, so I am excited to say that I am going out with my top one out of three this Saturday, so wish me luck!

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