Posts Tagged ‘EHarmony’

My 2010 To Do List


2009
12.24


Here is the list of 10 things I will do with regard to dat­ing in 2010. 2009 has been some­what of a rough year so I wish and aim to make 2010 a more pos­i­tive year. The goal of this list is to make sure these goals are track-able and can be reviewed to see if they are suc­cess­ful or not through­out the year. I expect you to hold me account­able as I try to hold myself accountable.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try some­thing new.

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the cur­rent time.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

What do we think? Any more I should add to the list? Meet me in the com­ments section.

Realize I’m Lucky That Men Adore Me


2009
11.06
I felt a lit­tle down when things ended with the guy I was dat­ing. How­ever, I real­ized that all I can do is keep on trekking. My eHar­mony sub­scrip­tion has finally run out, and I didn’t renew it. The last day of my sub­scrip­tion the last guy I was dat­ing mes­saged me. We have been chat­ting non­stop ever since. He is just as con­nected as I am, which I like. It’s not like it has been with the past cou­ple of guys I have dated who don’t know how to text or send email. He has kids, like I do.
There is also another guy. I met him while out with my guy friend. He seems sweet, and we had a ball that night. We are sup­pose to go to din­ner on Sat­ur­day, so I real­ized some­thing. I never have issues find­ing guys, so I need to be happy that I at least have a pool of guys I can date. Maybe one day, one of them will turn into some­thing more.


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SUCCESS: First eHarmony Date


2009
08.24

 

First dates can be fright­en­ing. It’s worse when it’s a blind or online date. This week­end I went on my first date from eHar­mony. I was ner­vous for a cou­ple of rea­sons: 1. It was my first date since March from an online dat­ing site and 2. I was feel­ing a lit­tle down cause of how my ex totally dissed me. How­ever, I tried to brush these fears aside and be optimistic.

It was pour­ing that day. I usu­ally see rain as wash­ing away all your trou­bles and the past, so I was kind of happy that it was.  When I was in the car, I saw this tall, good-looking guy going into the cof­fee shop that we were meet­ing at.  I hoped that it was him.  When I went in, he smiled at me.

Clemen­tine?”

I nod­ded.  He asked what I wanted.

Medium Caramel High Rise.”

He smiled.

That’s what I ordered.”

I thanked him for the cof­fee. Side Note: ALWAYS thank a guy for pay­ing, even if it’s a piece of choco­late. They do remem­ber this kind of stuff.

We sat down and talked.  While he talked, I had to con­tain my smile.  It dawned on me that I had but­ter­flies in my stom­ach.  This is a feel­ing I had not felt since G., so I was mesmerized.

Two hours flew by and we were still talk­ing.  He was hang­ing out with his friend, who had not gone out since his baby was born, so he had to leave. 

Another Side Note:  A guy who is sur­rounded by mar­ried friends is usu­ally more apt to want to set­tle down com­pared to guys who just hang out with other sin­gle guys. 

We made plans for our sec­ond date.  It has been a very long time, but I am excited for this one.  Let’s just hope that he calls.

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Letting Go of a Past Relationship


2009
08.20
past

leav­ing the past behind you…, orig­i­nally uploaded by Jef­frey Eric.

Every self-help book that I have read has the same phi­los­o­phy when it comes to the past. Leave it behind. You will never be able to move for­ward if you are still dwelling on it. It’s some­thing that I keep get­ting bet­ter at doing in all parts of my life, except my love life.

I keep think­ing about two of my exes, and I know that I won’t be able to find some­one who I can be in a healthy rela­tion­ship with until I for­get them. They were both detri­men­tal to my emo­tional and phys­i­cal health, so I know that I can’t keep think­ing about them. Out of two, I will have to say that L. is the one I really have to stop think­ing about. Our three-year rela­tion­ship was filled with her con­stant cheat­ing, lies, and psy­cho­log­i­cal imbal­ance. She was abu­sive and mean. I know that she hasn’t changed, even though she says she has, so I don’t know why it’s so hard to stop think­ing about this girl.

It’s hard when it’s some­one of the same gen­der. She is not just your lover; she is also your best friend. With a guy, you can mope around for a bit, but even­tu­ally, you get up and keep going. With a woman, you feel like you have no one, espe­cially when you alien­ated every­one to the point that it was just you two.

I am slowly for­get­ting about her cause I know that she has ridicu­lous issues. A month ago, I joined eHar­mony, and I am meet­ing some amaz­ing guys. There are three that I am really inter­ested in, so I am excited to say that I am going out with my top one out of three this Sat­ur­day, so wish me luck!


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