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Month in Review — January 2010


2010
02.03

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As you recall, I made a list of goals for myself for 2010. One month in I will review my progress.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try something new.

This is done. Sub­scrip­tion ran out on Jan­u­ary 27th. Time for a break from this. Didn’t net me a major one but I did meet some nice peo­ple.  A+

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

I did pretty well with this one. Add in the net­work­ing event and I believe I get a 4/4 weeks. We will go with a B+ because I didn’t exceed expectations.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the current time.

Haven’t got­ten this one started yet. Incomplete.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

Have done some research on this but need to at least sign up for a cook­ing class and research more danc­ing salsa classes.  C

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

Was actu­ally signed up for a char­ity speed dat­ing func­tion but it was post­poned. Will wait to see if this one is announced again or will find another one.   C

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

So far so good with this one. Maybe a few more entries but I did well in Jan­u­ary. B–

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

Have done noth­ing with this one. Need to get on the ball. D

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

Yep. All over this one. Keep it going. Maybe more yoga too. A–

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

Pretty solid as well. Didn’t slip up so far. B

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

As you can tell from the tenor of my last post here, this one has gone south quickly. Need to work on this for Feb­ru­ary. Will be a lit­tle chal­leng­ing because of Valentine’s Day, but let’s see what happens.

As you can see, I have plenty of work to do. Stay tuned for a March report after this month.

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A perplexing situation …


2010
01.01

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Should we go out?

Should we go out?


Happy New Year to all our read­ers! As the year turns and we enter another decade, I am look­ing at a per­plex­ing situation.

The other day I went to a con­cert with a pretty good friend of mine and we had a very, very amaz­ing good time. This is a friend of mine who has recently bro­ken up with a boyfriend of hers of about two years. Of course out­siders could tell that her spe­cific rela­tion­ship was pretty one-sided with her bring­ing much more to the table than her ex-boyfriend was. We just had to wait to see it play through includ­ing a brief reunit­ing. So now of course she is now on that dreaded “rebound”.

I sit on the out­side won­der­ing a few things. In the past she has stated that I per­son­ally have all the qual­i­ties she would want in a man. In fact, she even won­dered if she knew any woman who would be “good enough” for me (she was try­ing to rack her brain for a friend of hers to hook me up with). Now I won­der maybe we should go out on a date. I won­der how it would turn out. Of course you have the to con­sider the whole wait­ing game and not try­ing to date some­one who is obvi­ously on the rebound. The counter to that state­ment is what if you wait and some­one comes in and scoops her up? Ugh … isn’t tim­ing the worst?

Now she is obvi­ously out there meet­ing guys and stuff but it was her idea for us to go to this con­cert. I don’t want to make a moun­tain over a mole­hill but in my opin­ion, there is some very good poten­tial between the two of us. I am con­fused because I don’t want to miss any signs but then don’t want to read too much into any signs as well. The worst thing to do would be to not act and miss a good thing. Then, I could act and ruin a friend­ship. As a good friend of mine did tell me , “with you friends, there is always poten­tial because you all get along well. ” So that really clears things up, NOT!

What should I do? I could just keep being steady and spend as much time with her as pos­si­ble and see what grows. Just don’t want to fall into the buddy zone but actu­ally I am already there and try­ing to take it maybe to that next level.

What should I do?

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My 2010 To Do List


2009
12.24

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Here is the list of 10 things I will do with regard to dat­ing in 2010. 2009 has been some­what of a rough year so I wish and aim to make 2010 a more pos­i­tive year. The goal of this list is to make sure these goals are track-able and can be reviewed to see if they are suc­cess­ful or not through­out the year. I expect you to hold me account­able as I try to hold myself accountable.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try some­thing new.

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the cur­rent time.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

What do we think? Any more I should add to the list? Meet me in the com­ments section.

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Remind me again — What is the Rule?


2009
12.14

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So this past week­end I had the plea­sure of meet­ing a nice young lady. While I was work­ing a party I had some very enter­tain­ing and fun con­ver­sa­tion with some­one and we exchanged num­bers. A close friend of mine would be espe­cially proud of me for not “drop­ping the pass” and recov­er­ing enough to pay atten­tion to a poten­tial hint. Let’s hope that the con­ver­sa­tion was gen­uine and I am afforded the chance to get to know here bet­ter. Now that we have passed the ini­tial stage, I have to get the young lady on the phone and talk to her some more. We need to find out if I was dream­ing or is it real­ity. Do I call her now (it’s been over 24 hours) or do I wait a bit? I am think­ing I call her now. What do you say?

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One of the Most Boring Dates I’ve Ever Been On


2009
12.05

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I’m way too picky, and I am try­ing to be more relaxed about things, but I can’t help it. It’s done with Short Guy after last night. We head to din­ner. It was nice of him to come to my neck of the woods. Men always act like they can’t head this way, so that was a nice ges­ture on his part. We’re there wait­ing for the table, and I am talk­ing my head off cause he is just stand­ing there. I’m talk­ing, talk­ing, and talk­ing. Then, I notice this hot, TALL, black man, and I can’t help but think: Damn, I wish I wasn’t with this dude. What made it worse was that the guy started talk­ing to me when he went to close his tab, and I was kind of flirt­ing too.

All of a sud­den, I feel breath­ing, and we (hot guy and me) look down and there is the short dude.

I cringed when the guy said “your girl did good not spilling her drink.”

I wanted to scream, “I am not his girl!!!!!”

I felt awful after think­ing it, but some­times your sub­con­scious says the things you are think­ing with­out you want­ing it to or not.

We grab a table, and I was already bored and think­ing of all the things that I could have been doing. One thing that bugged me is that he kept say­ing that he is all about rou­tine, and he can’t break that rou­tine. I cringed. I can’t imag­ine being with some­one who doesn’t have a spon­ta­neous body in his bones. He eats the same meals every day. What the hell is that?! I thought there was hope when he said he switches it up, but it just meant switch­ing peas to rice.

Then he starts talk­ing about his entire rou­tine, and why he changed it. I some­times won­der how peo­ple live such bor­ing lives. I real­ized how bor­ing life would be with this guy when I said that I don’t play video games so much any­more cause I will not leave the house until I beat the game. He starts going “Yes!” It’s like dude, it doesn’t mean that I won’t leave the house now. I am a “Get and Go” kinda girl, so you’re on your own if you think I am not going to get the hell up to go somewhere.

Two things about me: 1. I don’t share food and 2. I hate rep­e­ti­tion. With the food thing, I hate when some­one offers you his food just so he can have some of yours. He offered, and I said no. I noticed that he kept star­ing at my food, so after a few sec­onds, I asked him if he wanted a bite. He jumped at it. I wanted to say to him: Next time don’t do the whole fake-me-out “Do you want some?” cause you want my food.

Then, he begins telling me this story. He goes, “I don’t know if you heard it.” When he began, I real­ized I did, so I said, “Yeah, you told me about it.” He pauses and CONTINUES TELLING THE DAMN STORY! I was annoyed as all hell. Why did you ask if I heard it if you were going to tell me any­way?! I just tuned him out and started think­ing about all the cute guys I saw yes­ter­day and today that I wasn’t able to talk to cause I’m hear­ing this guy talk about his bor­ing existence.

He also has this habit of get­ting all high pitch about things. It sounds more annoy­ing cause of his south­ern accent. Every time he gets high pitch with it, I wanted to shake him and tell him that girls don’t like men with high voices. He is clueless.

He walked me to my car, and I hugged him and back off before he kissed me. I felt like I was on a Sein­feld episode.


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