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I’m in Trouble

2010
01.21


I went to a party this past Sun­day and I real­ized I am in trou­ble. I was in a lounge/club and there were a few peo­ple there. As the party con­tin­ued, I became so focused on the music and what the DJ was play­ing, my inter­est in min­gling with the crowd waned quickly. Please note I was sup­posed to meet some peo­ple there but they no-showed so I was left there kind of alone (which is cool). I did see some peo­ple there that I knew so we chat­ted for a bit. For the whole part of the night though, I was just groov­ing to the music. And felt good too. How­ever, I didn’t min­gle very much so the night would seem to be a fail­ure, right?

I’m in trou­ble and I don’t know how to get better.

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Do Inmates Deserve Love Too?

2010
01.16
My ques­tion to you there­fore is this: if an inmate has signed up for a dat­ing site that caters to their incar­cer­a­tion, is it ok? Does the fact that the site has already pre­de­ter­mined all users are behind bars make it clear enough, or should inmates be barred alto­gether from find­ing love online? Does what they’ve been con­victed of mat­ter, or should only cer­tain types of inmates be allowed to seek love online?

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I think it depends on the crime. If they caused harm to some­one in any way, then they shouldn’t. How­ever, if it’s petty crime, why not?

My ques­tion to you there­fore is this: if an inmate has signed up for a dat­ing site that caters to their incar­cer­a­tion, is it ok? Does the fact that the site has already pre­de­ter­mined all users are behind bars make it clear enough, or should inmates be barred alto­gether from find­ing love online? Does … Posted via web from Love and the City

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Where Are All These Cute Guys Coming From?

2010
01.12

I said that I was giv­ing up on love. Why is it that now I am see­ing all these cute guys?! First, my friend brings a cute guy to lunch, and we kept look­ing at one another. Now, I notice at work that there is this cute guy who works on my floor. We both headed to the ele­va­tor, and he started talk­ing to me. I was tongue tied because I didn’t know what to say. In a way, I wanted to talk to him, but then again, I didn’t.

I prob­a­bly will never see him again, but I won­der why all of a sud­den I am see­ing all these good-looking guys? I won­der if I should see this as a sign to not give up and that there is still hope. I’m start­ing to head in that kind of think­ing. Is it a sign? Or is it fate play­ing me a raw hand once again?

All I know is that I am tired of wast­ing my time and get­ting hurt. Maybe it’s a way to admire all the hot­ties out there with­out hav­ing to deal with any pain.


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Should I Settle?

2010
01.12


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Set­tle
Verb Phrases
set­tle for, to be sat­is­fied with: to set­tle for less.

Is it a bad thing to set­tle? Is our list of things we want in a mate just too damn much long? I have been think­ing about this lately. Ever since I went to see the movie “Up in the Air” and one of the best scenes in the movie, the younger female lead actress speaks about set­tling and how it is a bad thing (by def­i­n­i­tion she says). Won’t I regret it later on in life if I set­tle? I can’t call it. I admit, some­times it is lit­tle things that really bother me about ladies here and there.

Let me give you an exam­ple. It’s a pretty small exam­ple, but still gets my point across. There was some­one who I have been admir­ing from afar and we are in the same group activ­ity together. Lately she had been impress­ing me with her com­mit­ment to our group and attend­ing all of our weekly meet­ings. Note she has a his­tory in the past of being flaky and just not show­ing up or rsvp’ing a decline when the group really needed her. Very lit­tle issue but just a sign of flak­i­ness. My feel­ing is don’t com­mit to some­thing if you are not going to attend reg­u­larly when the group is depend­ing on you on a weekly basis. So tonight, she flaked again. I fig­ured maybe she had a large amount of home­work to do or maybe had to stay late at work. Nope, she had to do laun­dry. Hmmm … seems like she has regressed her true col­ors are showing.

Am I over­re­act­ing? This lit­tle inci­dent both­ers me because I see this as a sign of what one might do with more major events than a group activ­ity. This would be enough to just write her off and for­get about pur­su­ing my admiration.

What do you think?

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Temporarily Forgetting About Love

2010
01.06

Last year, I hoped that by the end of 2010, I would be engaged.  How­ever, I never found any­one last year, so it’s doubt­ful that this will hap­pen.  I’ve decided to forego love for awhile.  My busi­ness is tak­ing off, and I want to ded­i­cate all of my energy and effort to finally quit­ting my job and free­lance full-time.  There­fore, I don’t have time for love. 

Behind my back, my sis­ter re-established my EHar­mony account, but I told her that she can do that because I don’t have any hope for love right now.  It’d be sur­pris­ing if she does find some­one for me, but I am not hold­ing my breath.  My friend, who’s wed­ding is in Mex­ico, found her fiancée on the dat­ing site, and in the first month.  I had the sub­scrip­tion for three months and didn’t find any­one.  Well…not entirely true.  I found depressed guy who wasted two months of my life.  I guess in a way, I did find some­one in the first month. 

Today, my friend brought her friend to lunch.  He was hot, and I couldn’t help but look at him.  I saw him star­ing at me too, and I felt an instant attrac­tion.  How­ever, I forced myself to not think about it.  I have to con­cen­trate on my busi­ness, and I hate hav­ing to do the whole awk­ward “I  have kids” speech, so I’d rather not exert any energy.  Not going to lie though, I couldn’t help but feel tingly inside when he looked at me.  I noticed that when he hugged me good­bye, he kind of lin­gered, and I did as well. 

Ok back to work.

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