HeartBrakeHotel http://heartbrakehotel.com he said/she said love and dating conversations Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:02:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 Everything Happens for a Reason http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/03/01/everything-happens-for-a-reason/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/03/01/everything-happens-for-a-reason/#comments Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:59:51 +0000 Dr. Prentice http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=218 This is a saying the many people use when you go through tough times in life whether it be a death in the family or a breakup or losing a job. Very rarely will you discover the reason for this specific event in a short period of time.]]>
This is a saying the many people use when you go through tough times in life whether it be a death in the family or a breakup or losing a job. Very rarely will you discover the reason for this specific event in a short period of time. I had the fortune of hearing a little gossip on Saturday that related to a young lady I liked back in the July/August timeframe who chose a public party to be rude to me and basically show me she didn’t respect me or even like me like that. This was an event that infuriated me and took me a little bit to get over. Well, this weekend I heard that this same girl (who was dating the same boy she “left” me for at the aforementioned party) had cheated on this boy with another guy. When I heard this information, I immediately knew why I had such a rude experience with her. That was done to save me from future heartache from her because she is obviously not worthy of my time. A few close friends would tell me this, but I had to learn on my own. Now I have confirmation. Thank you. Now if I could only find out why I few other things have happened I would be straight. I will be patient wait.

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/03/01/everything-happens-for-a-reason/feed/ 1 Reblog this post [with Zemanta] My Favorite Valentine’s Day Memories — Part 2 http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/13/my-favorite-valentines-day-memories-part-2/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/13/my-favorite-valentines-day-memories-part-2/#comments Sat, 13 Feb 2010 19:13:03 +0000 Dr. Prentice http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=216 This memory takes me back almost seven or eight years (I am having trouble remembering exact dates). I had a very, very close friend who lives in the Midwest and she was having a tough time right around Valentine's Day.]]>

This memory takes me back almost seven or eight years (I am having trouble remembering exact dates). I had a very, very close friend who lives in the Midwest and she was having a tough time right around Valentine’s Day. From what I remember, her and her husband were having some marital issues and she was taking it hard. Combine that with the fact that she was working almost two full time jobs at the time with two young girls,  It was fair to say she was teetering at the edge. I knew that in general she wasn’t a really big fan of Valentine’s Day so the actual day wasn’t a big deal to her. Even still, in the state she was in, I wanted to do something for her just so she knew that someone out there loved her and cared for her and was there for her during this extremely difficult time. I placed a call to the local florist near where she lived and ordered her a dozen rozes. Just told her I was thinking about her and there for her if she needed me.

Well, she was so very touched by my gift to her. She said she even shed some tears of joy. Something pretty simple brightened someone’s Valentine’s Day. Mission accomplished. That is another favorite Valentine’s Day memory for me.

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A guy on EHarmony, who was the only one I was really interested in wants to meet for drinks.  He doesn’t know that I am dealing with a death of a loved one, so for him, I am available.  I feel like I don’t want to do anything.  I don’t have much emotion, and I feel empty inside.  I feel more alone than ever, and I don’t care to really find anyone now.  However, is it healthy to want to not do a damn thing?  I know it isn’t, but I just don’t seem to care. 

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/12/dating-when-grieving/feed/ 1 IMG_1123 My Favorite Valentine’s Day Memories Part 1 http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/11/my-favorite-valentines-day-memories-part-1/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/11/my-favorite-valentines-day-memories-part-1/#comments Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:57:48 +0000 Dr. Prentice http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=213 Valentine's Day is quickly approaching and instead of posting a bitter, angry sad post, I will like to share with all of you some of my favorite Valentine's Day memories. ]]>
Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and instead of posting a bitter, angry sad post, I will like to share with all of you some of my favorite Valentine’s Day memories.

The first one takes me back to 10th grade and a crush I had. It was the middle of basketball season and I was in an advanced Anatomy & Physiology class. My deskmate was a cutie who was a Varsity Cheerleader and also smart as hell. We interacted so much during class and then at times after school because of basketball. Of course a crush developed quickly and strongly. During high school, I also worked a part time job so I had some extra change. Normally in our high school, for Valentine’s Day they would deliver carnations to people in their classes (of course you had to pay). I had the genius idea of sending her a carnation delivery while we were in class together. A little bold, but fun, I went for it. The day came and as class was almost over the fire alarm went off. At the same time, here comes the carnation delivery. The impact of my thoughfulness was gone. She still got the delivery and knew it was from me, but I missed my 15 minutes of sitting next to her after the delivery to really “make my move.”  I never got the chance again.

Nevertheless, this is one of my favorite Valentine’s Day memories. Stay tuned for more later on in the week.

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/11/my-favorite-valentines-day-memories-part-1/feed/ 1 Reblog this post [with Zemanta] Month in Review — January 2010 http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/03/month-in-review-january-2010/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/03/month-in-review-january-2010/#comments Wed, 03 Feb 2010 16:13:25 +0000 Dr. Prentice http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=208 As you recall, I made a list of goals for myself for 2010. One month in I will review my progress.]]>
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As you recall, I made a list of goals for myself for 2010. One month in I will review my progress.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try some­thing new.

This is done. Subscription ran out on January 27th. Time for a break from this. Didn’t net me a major one but I did meet some nice people.  A+

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

I did pretty well with this one. Add in the networking event and I believe I get a 4/4 weeks. We will go with a B+ because I didn’t exceed expectations.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the cur­rent time.

Haven’t gotten this one started yet. Incomplete.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

Have done some research on this but need to at least sign up for a cooking class and research more dancing salsa classes.  C

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

Was actually signed up for a charity speed dating function but it was postponed. Will wait to see if this one is announced again or will find another one.   C

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

So far so good with this one. Maybe a few more entries but I did well in January. B–

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

Have done nothing with this one. Need to get on the ball. D

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

Yep. All over this one. Keep it going. Maybe more yoga too. A–

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

Pretty solid as well. Didn’t slip up so far. B

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

As you can tell from the tenor of my last post here, this one has gone south quickly. Need to work on this for February. Will be a little challenging because of Valentine’s Day, but let’s see what happens.

As you can see, I have plenty of work to do. Stay tuned for a March report after this month.

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/02/03/month-in-review-january-2010/feed/ 1 grandmother's report card Reblog this post [with Zemanta] Timing is a b*tch … http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/31/timing-is-a-btch/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/31/timing-is-a-btch/#comments Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:31:30 +0000 Dr. Prentice http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=203 I swear ... this timing thing just never works out how it is supposed to. ]]>

I swear … this timing thing just never works out how it is supposed to.

If timing knew better, it would have arranged for the young lady who worked for me to be single and then NOT work with me. Long story but it just seems like an opportunity missed.

If timing knew better, it would make sure the girl I hit it off with last year wasn’t on a severe rebound and unable to see what was in front of her (me!).

Why does timing still mess with me and just leave me wondering week after week? I just don’t understand it. “Be Patient”. “Good things come to those who wait.” “Good things happen to good people” Blah, blah, blah … Ugh …

It sure seems like I can’t catch a break. I will say that timing did me favor by letting me see that this girl was a true flake. +1 point for timing. You are still down –4 point.

I am about to go truly stir crazy. I feel like a top that is just spinning around and around with no direction to go towards. This isn’t getting better.

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/31/timing-is-a-btch/feed/ 1 Uggggh spaceball frustration Reblog this post [with Zemanta] Feeling Discouraged http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/25/feeling-discouraged/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/25/feeling-discouraged/#comments Mon, 25 Jan 2010 18:38:33 +0000 Clementine http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/25/feeling-discouraged/ My sister told me not to give up and started an EHarmony account for me again.  I decided that I am busy, but ok, I will give it a shot.  I start talking to this guy, and he asks to meet tomorrow.  Even though I am busy, I was looking forward to getting out of [...]]]> Rebel

My sister told me not to give up and started an EHarmony account for me again.  I decided that I am busy, but ok, I will give it a shot.  I start talking to this guy, and he asks to meet tomorrow.  Even though I am busy, I was looking forward to getting out of the house and meeting someone new.  I check my EHarmony account today, and he closed the match.  Reason?

“Want to pursue other matches.”

I’m feeling discouraged.  I know I shouldn’t be like this for one person, but why is it so hard for me to find someone?  Even my ex, who ruined my life, has found someone, and I can’t find a single person? Am I destined to be alone?  I don’t want to be 40 and still dating random guys. 

I honestly feel that there is something wrong with me.  I’m so tired of people saying that I am beautiful, smart, and have it going on, and I will find someone new.  It’s been how long, and I still can’t find a single person?

Should I give up? I am tired of being rejected. I really am.  It’s one of the reasons that I have been obsessed with work.  I hate feeling like no one wants to take a chance to be with me.  I’m 31, and I feel like the boat is leaving. 

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I went to a party this past Sunday and I realized I am in trouble. I was in a lounge/club and there were a few people there. As the party continued, I became so focused on the music and what the DJ was playing, my interest in mingling with the crowd waned quickly. Please note I was supposed to meet some people there but they no-showed so I was left there kind of alone (which is cool). I did see some people there that I knew so we chatted for a bit. For the whole part of the night though, I was just grooving to the music. And felt good too. However, I didn’t mingle very much so the night would seem to be a failure, right?

I’m in trouble and I don’t know how to get better.

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My question to you therefore is this: if an inmate has signed up for a dating site that caters to their incarceration, is it ok? Does the fact that the site has already predetermined all users are behind bars make it clear enough, or should inmates be barred altogether from finding love online? Does what they’ve been convicted of matter, or should only certain types of inmates be allowed to seek love online?

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I think it depends on the crime. If they caused harm to someone in any way, then they shouldn’t. However, if it’s petty crime, why not?

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]]> http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/16/do-inmates-deserve-love-too/feed/ 0 Where Are All These Cute Guys Coming From? http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/12/where-are-all-these-cute-guys-coming-from/ http://heartbrakehotel.com/2010/01/12/where-are-all-these-cute-guys-coming-from/#comments Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:15:34 +0000 Clementine http://heartbrakehotel.com/?p=195 I said that I was giving up on love. Why is it that now I am seeing all these cute guys?! First, my friend brings a cute guy to lunch, and we kept looking at one another. Now, I notice at work that there is this cute guy who works on my floor. [...]]]>
I said that I was giving up on love. Why is it that now I am seeing all these cute guys?! First, my friend brings a cute guy to lunch, and we kept looking at one another. Now, I notice at work that there is this cute guy who works on my floor. We both headed to the elevator, and he started talking to me. I was tongue tied because I didn’t know what to say. In a way, I wanted to talk to him, but then again, I didn’t.

I probably will never see him again, but I wonder why all of a sudden I am seeing all these good-looking guys? I wonder if I should see this as a sign to not give up and that there is still hope. I’m starting to head in that kind of thinking. Is it a sign? Or is it fate playing me a raw hand once again?

All I know is that I am tired of wasting my time and getting hurt. Maybe it’s a way to admire all the hotties out there without having to deal with any pain.


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