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This memory takes me back almost seven or eight years (I am having trouble remembering exact dates). I had a very, very close friend who lives in the Midwest and she was having a tough time right around Valentine’s Day. From what I remember, her and her husband were having some marital issues and she was taking it hard. Combine that with the fact that she was working almost two full time jobs at the time with two young girls,  It was fair to say she was teetering at the edge. I knew that in general she wasn’t a really big fan of Valentine’s Day so the actual day wasn’t a big deal to her. Even still, in the state she was in, I wanted to do something for her just so she knew that someone out there loved her and cared for her and was there for her during this extremely difficult time. I placed a call to the local florist near where she lived and ordered her a dozen rozes. Just told her I was thinking about her and there for her if she needed me.

Well, she was so very touched by my gift to her. She said she even shed some tears of joy. Something pretty simple brightened someone’s Valentine’s Day. Mission accomplished. That is another favorite Valentine’s Day memory for me.

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The first one takes me back to 10th grade and a crush I had. It was the middle of basketball season and I was in an advanced Anatomy & Physiology class. My deskmate was a cutie who was a Varsity Cheerleader and also smart as hell. We interacted so much during class and then at times after school because of basketball. Of course a crush developed quickly and strongly. During high school, I also worked a part time job so I had some extra change. Normally in our high school, for Valentine’s Day they would deliver carnations to people in their classes (of course you had to pay). I had the genius idea of sending her a carnation delivery while we were in class together. A little bold, but fun, I went for it. The day came and as class was almost over the fire alarm went off. At the same time, here comes the carnation delivery. The impact of my thoughfulness was gone. She still got the delivery and knew it was from me, but I missed my 15 minutes of sitting next to her after the delivery to really “make my move.”  I never got the chance again.

Nevertheless, this is one of my favorite Valentine’s Day memories. Stay tuned for more later on in the week.

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I probably will never see him again, but I wonder why all of a sudden I am seeing all these good-looking guys? I wonder if I should see this as a sign to not give up and that there is still hope. I’m starting to head in that kind of thinking. Is it a sign? Or is it fate playing me a raw hand once again?

All I know is that I am tired of wasting my time and getting hurt. Maybe it’s a way to admire all the hotties out there without having to deal with any pain.

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Is it a bad thing to settle? Is our list of things we want in a mate just too damn much long? I have been thinking about this lately. Ever since I went to see the movie “Up in the Air” and one of the best scenes in the movie, the younger female lead actress speaks about settling and how it is a bad thing (by definition she says). Won’t I regret it later on in life if I settle? I can’t call it. I admit, sometimes it is little things that really bother me about ladies here and there.

Let me give you an example. It’s a pretty small example, but still gets my point across. There was someone who I have been admiring from afar and we are in the same group activity together. Lately she had been impressing me with her commitment to our group and attending all of our weekly meetings. Note she has a history in the past of being flaky and just not showing up or rsvp’ing a decline when the group really needed her. Very little issue but just a sign of flakiness. My feeling is don’t commit to something if you are not going to attend regularly when the group is depending on you on a weekly basis. So tonight, she flaked again. I figured maybe she had a large amount of homework to do or maybe had to stay late at work. Nope, she had to do laundry. Hmmm … seems like she has regressed her true colors are showing.

Am I overreacting? This little incident bothers me because I see this as a sign of what one might do with more major events than a group activity. This would be enough to just write her off and forget about pursuing my admiration.

What do you think?

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Behind my back, my sister re-established my EHarmony account, but I told her that she can do that because I don’t have any hope for love right now.  It’d be surprising if she does find someone for me, but I am not holding my breath.  My friend, who’s wedding is in Mexico, found her fiancée on the dating site, and in the first month.  I had the subscription for three months and didn’t find anyone.  Well…not entirely true.  I found depressed guy who wasted two months of my life.  I guess in a way, I did find someone in the first month. 

Today, my friend brought her friend to lunch.  He was hot, and I couldn’t help but look at him.  I saw him staring at me too, and I felt an instant attraction.  However, I forced myself to not think about it.  I have to concentrate on my business, and I hate having to do the whole awkward “I  have kids” speech, so I’d rather not exert any energy.  Not going to lie though, I couldn’t help but feel tingly inside when he looked at me.  I noticed that when he hugged me goodbye, he kind of lingered, and I did as well. 

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1) End the use of eharmony.com when my subscription expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice people and even dated a handful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in following the eharmony process (translation burned out), so I must move on and try something new.

2) Engage in one social activity per week. This means getting out to a party, happy hour, concert, networking event … something that is social and out among old and new friends.

3) Try a new online dating source as they become more and more possible. Chemistry.com is a leading contender at the current time.

4) Take one class that will further engage me in a social atmosphere. I am thinking about either a cooking class or perhaps a dance (salsa) class.

5) Try speed dating one time.

6) Continue to more actively post entries on this blog regarding my dating life. This has turned into a great source of therapy for myself.

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie viewing club to first grow my interest in movies and also to attempt to meet other people ladies interested in the same thing.

8 ) Continue to participate in promising social sporting activies (soccer, yoga) which lend themselves to genuine meetings.

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warning signs when (attempting to) dating someone.

10) Try to release all worry about meeting someone and do my best not to dwell on current circumstances and develop a more positive outlook. (This will by far be the most difficult and hardest to track).

What do we think? Any more I should add to the list? Meet me in the comments section.

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My ex will not leave me alone.  She decided to not even speak after we tried to be friends, and now she is trying to reenter my life?  I honestly don’t want to go through the same headaches with her again, so I’d rather that she stay away.  The newest thing is that she is now trying to buy Christmas gifts. I already told her that if she does, I am going to “Return to Sender.”

The reason I am being so mean is that I know that she isn’t doing it because she really loves me.  She is doing it cause she has this sickening obsession with me.  I really hope that this new guy she is doing takes her mind off of me.  Maybe if he marries her and whisks her away, then I never have to deal with her again.

I want to find someone who loves me for me, and doesn’t want me cause I am a challenge.  I do have some hope after talking to my engaged friend, and I feel like good things are coming my way, so let’s see.  Tomorrow I have a date from Chemistry.com, and I hope that he is a nice guy.  If he isn’t, I am going to keep on trying.  I don’t want to end up with someone like my ex, who is a complete loss of time. I know that I won’t though. Tags: ex, breaking up, chemistry.com, keep away

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