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My Favorite Valentine’s Day Memories — Part 2


2010
02.13

This mem­ory takes me back almost seven or eight years (I am hav­ing trou­ble remem­ber­ing exact dates). I had a very, very close friend who lives in the Mid­west and she was hav­ing a tough time right around Valentine’s Day. From what I remem­ber, her and her hus­band were hav­ing some mar­i­tal issues and she was tak­ing it hard. Com­bine that with the fact that she was work­ing almost two full time jobs at the time with two young girls,  It was fair to say she was tee­ter­ing at the edge. I knew that in gen­eral she wasn’t a really big fan of Valentine’s Day so the actual day wasn’t a big deal to her. Even still, in the state she was in, I wanted to do some­thing for her just so she knew that some­one out there loved her and cared for her and was there for her dur­ing this extremely dif­fi­cult time. I placed a call to the local florist near where she lived and ordered her a dozen rozes. Just told her I was think­ing about her and there for her if she needed me.

Well, she was so very touched by my gift to her. She said she even shed some tears of joy. Some­thing pretty sim­ple bright­ened someone’s Valentine’s Day. Mis­sion accom­plished. That is another favorite Valentine’s Day mem­ory for me.

Dating When Grieving


2010
02.12

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A guy on EHar­mony, who was the only one I was really inter­ested in wants to meet for drinks.  He doesn’t know that I am deal­ing with a death of a loved one, so for him, I am avail­able.  I feel like I don’t want to do any­thing.  I don’t have much emo­tion, and I feel empty inside.  I feel more alone than ever, and I don’t care to really find any­one now.  How­ever, is it healthy to want to not do a damn thing?  I know it isn’t, but I just don’t seem to care. 

My Favorite Valentine’s Day Memories Part 1


2010
02.11


Valentine’s Day is quickly approach­ing and instead of post­ing a bit­ter, angry sad post, I will like to share with all of you some of my favorite Valentine’s Day memories.

The first one takes me back to 10th grade and a crush I had. It was the mid­dle of bas­ket­ball sea­son and I was in an advanced Anatomy & Phys­i­ol­ogy class. My desk­mate was a cutie who was a Var­sity Cheer­leader and also smart as hell. We inter­acted so much dur­ing class and then at times after school because of bas­ket­ball. Of course a crush devel­oped quickly and strongly. Dur­ing high school, I also worked a part time job so I had some extra change. Nor­mally in our high school, for Valentine’s Day they would deliver car­na­tions to peo­ple in their classes (of course you had to pay). I had the genius idea of send­ing her a car­na­tion deliv­ery while we were in class together. A lit­tle bold, but fun, I went for it. The day came and as class was almost over the fire alarm went off. At the same time, here comes the car­na­tion deliv­ery. The impact of my though­ful­ness was gone. She still got the deliv­ery and knew it was from me, but I missed my 15 min­utes of sit­ting next to her after the deliv­ery to really “make my move.”  I never got the chance again.

Nev­er­the­less, this is one of my favorite Valentine’s Day mem­o­ries. Stay tuned for more later on in the week.

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Month in Review — January 2010


2010
02.03
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As you recall, I made a list of goals for myself for 2010. One month in I will review my progress.

1) End the use of ehar​mony​.com when my sub­scrip­tion expires in January/February. I have been on this site for 18+ months and met some very nice peo­ple and even dated a hand­ful of ladies. I am burned out no longer actively engaged in fol­low­ing the ehar­mony process (trans­la­tion burned out), so I must move on and try something new.

This is done. Sub­scrip­tion ran out on Jan­u­ary 27th. Time for a break from this. Didn’t net me a major one but I did meet some nice peo­ple.  A+

2) Engage in one social activ­ity per week. This means get­ting out to a party, happy hour, con­cert, net­work­ing event … some­thing that is social and out among old and new friends.

I did pretty well with this one. Add in the net­work­ing event and I believe I get a 4/4 weeks. We will go with a B+ because I didn’t exceed expectations.

3) Try a new online dat­ing source as they become more and more pos­si­ble. Chem​istry​.com is a lead­ing con­tender at the current time.

Haven’t got­ten this one started yet. Incomplete.

4) Take one class that will fur­ther engage me in a social atmos­phere. I am think­ing about either a cook­ing class or per­haps a dance (salsa) class.

Have done some research on this but need to at least sign up for a cook­ing class and research more danc­ing salsa classes.  C

5) Try speed dat­ing one time.

Was actu­ally signed up for a char­ity speed dat­ing func­tion but it was post­poned. Will wait to see if this one is announced again or will find another one.   C

6) Con­tinue to more actively post entries on this blog regard­ing my dat­ing life. This has turned into a great source of ther­apy for myself.

So far so good with this one. Maybe a few more entries but I did well in Jan­u­ary. B–

7) Join a movie reviewing/movie view­ing club to first grow my inter­est in movies and also to attempt to meet other peo­ple ladies inter­ested in the same thing.

Have done noth­ing with this one. Need to get on the ball. D

8 ) Con­tinue to par­tic­i­pate in promis­ing social sport­ing activies (soc­cer, yoga) which lend them­selves to gen­uine meetings.

Yep. All over this one. Keep it going. Maybe more yoga too. A–

9) Trust my instincts with regards to red flags and warn­ing signs when (attempt­ing to) dat­ing someone.

Pretty solid as well. Didn’t slip up so far. B

10) Try to release all worry about meet­ing some­one and do my best not to dwell on cur­rent cir­cum­stances and develop a more pos­i­tive out­look. (This will by far be the most dif­fi­cult and hard­est to track).

As you can tell from the tenor of my last post here, this one has gone south quickly. Need to work on this for Feb­ru­ary. Will be a lit­tle chal­leng­ing because of Valentine’s Day, but let’s see what happens.

As you can see, I have plenty of work to do. Stay tuned for a March report after this month.

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