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Online Dating vs. Matchmakers


2009
10.16

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Online dat­ing can be a daunt­ing expe­ri­ence, espe­cially when you are being intro­duced to dat­ing after a long hia­tus. You sift through tons of pro­files, and respond to the ones you like. You finally decide to meet one of the poten­tials and decide on a meet­ing spot. After one (or pos­si­bly two dates), you never hear from that per­son again. This con­tin­ues until you are ready to give up and crawl into a dark hole. You don’t know what else to do. You are a highly suc­cess­ful sin­gle who has a busy life and hasn’t found much suc­cess in leav­ing it up to des­tiny. Addi­tion­ally, you are selec­tive in who you date and want to find some­one who com­ple­ments you. What other alter­na­tive is there? Match­mak­ing ser­vices are a great way to find high-quality sin­gles in your area. Match­mak­ers pro­vide a per­son­al­ized ser­vice that will elim­i­nate that headache and time caused by online dating.

Prob­lem #1: Fake profiles

You come across the per­fect pro­file. She is beau­ti­ful, intel­li­gent, and has a great per­son­al­ity. You mes­sage her and hopes she responds back. Two things either occur: 1. She turns out to be a porn or strip­per ser­vice try­ing to lure you into using them or 2. You meet her in per­son, and she is a com­plete oppo­site of what you saw online.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers meet each individual

By using a match­mak­ing ser­vice, you elim­i­nate these issues because the match­mak­ing team meets each and every indi­vid­ual who wants to use them. They screen and run back­ground checks on every­one to make sure that they are legit. It’s great because you don’t waste time with spam­mers and peo­ple mis­rep­re­sent­ing them­selves, which is a huge relief.

Prob­lem #2: No help in find­ing the right match

If you are being intro­duced to dat­ing, you are pretty much clue­less as to how to go about it. Wouldn’t it be great to have some­one assist­ing you through the entire process? Some online dat­ing ser­vices claim they offer help in find­ing the right match, but they are usu­ally generic advice that is offered to every­one. Not every­one is going to date the same, so it really doesn’t do much in the end.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers are your guides

Match­mak­ers are with you every step of the way. They offer you advice on things you are doing well and need some adjust­ing. Their advice is tai­lored to your needs, so you are not get­ting the advice some­one else received. Addi­tion­ally, they fol­low up with you after the date. You never feel like you are going through this dat­ing process alone because there is always some­one they’re check­ing up on you. You are never alone to decide because there is always some­one there to assist you.

Prob­lem #3: Iden­tity theft is an issue

Iden­tity theft is an increas­ing issue in this coun­try. Online dat­ing ser­vices are not able to fully pro­tect you from this crime because there is no back­ground checks run on the peo­ple using them. There­fore, there is no ver­i­fi­ca­tion of iden­ti­fi­ca­tion, so you never know who these peo­ple really are. Addi­tion­ally, there are no fed­eral reg­u­la­tions on how online dat­ing ser­vices should be used and who is using them.

Solu­tion: Match­mak­ers make sure they know the peo­ple they are work­ing with

As stated pre­vi­ously, match­mak­ers run thor­ough check on every­one who uses their ser­vice. They want to ensure that they have the best peo­ple in their com­mu­nity. We’ve all heard hor­ror sto­ries about rape that has occurred dur­ing online dat­ing. By using a match­maker, you min­i­mize this tragedy from hap­pen­ing because the match­maker knows whom they are deal­ing with on a per­sonal level.

Prob­lem #4: The frus­tra­tion of deal­ing with profiles

Pro­files can be a frus­trat­ing expe­ri­ence. One thing is that the more appeal­ing peo­ple get flooded with emails, which frus­trates them, and they quit. This causes many pro­files to appear as active, when they really aren’t. There­fore, you never know if the per­son you write is ignor­ing you, or just stopped using the service.

Solu­tion: Every­one you meet is real

Peo­ple who use match­mak­ing ser­vices pay a good amount to be part of the com­mu­nity. Addi­tion­ally, the match­mak­ing team speaks to each and every per­son, so you never have to waste your time check­ing out a pro­file, only to find out that there is no one behind it.

Prob­lem #5: Won­der­ing if per­son wants a seri­ous relationship

With online dat­ing, you never know if the per­son wants a seri­ous rela­tion­ship unless they write in their pro­file. There is also the risk that the per­son is really mar­ried and is try­ing to com­mit adultery.

Solu­tion: Peo­ple using match­mak­ing ser­vices are usu­ally look­ing for a long-term relationship

If you went to a match­maker, then that means you are seri­ous. No one who doesn’t want a seri­ous rela­tion­ship would waste their time using a match­maker, espe­cially with all the other dat­ing ser­vice alter­na­tives out there. You always have a sense of hope using match­mak­ers because many of the headaches caused by online dat­ing go away.

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Are Men Afraid of a Woman Who Makes More Money Than They Do?


2009
10.14

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In one of the episodes on the pop­u­lar show “Sex and the City,” Miranda needs to find a date to a wed­ding. She decides to try speed dat­ing to quickly find a date. Every time, she answered the “what do you do” ques­tion and told the guy that she was a high-power Attor­ney to, the guy sud­denly lost inter­est. After numer­ous failed attempts, she finally tells the next guy that she is a Flight Atten­dant, and she secures a date. You are prob­a­bly shak­ing your head because you have found your­self in a sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tion. Why are men so threat­ened by highly-successful women? Shouldn’t they admire your accom­plish­ments? In major­ity of soci­eties, men are viewed as the provider. It’s just in recent times that we have started to see a shift in this par­a­digm, and women are in posi­tions usu­ally reserved for men.

Every­one remem­bers the shows where the wife cooks all day with per­fect makeup and clothes. When the hus­band gets home, she has a warm din­ner and dry mar­tini ready for him. This is what we have grown up with, and soci­ety has taught us are the appro­pri­ate gen­der roles. How­ever, times have changed and women now have suc­cess­ful careers that are equiv­a­lent to men. The prob­lem is that our thought process hasn’t. Men think that they can han­dle being with a woman who makes more money than they do, until they are dat­ing one. What can suc­cess­ful, sin­gle ladies do to find a guy who doesn’t see this as a threat?

Find­ing a long-term rela­tion­ship is harder than ever because there are many fac­tors that have made the process more com­pli­cated. One of these is a woman who is dri­ven about her career. Don’t be dis­cour­aged. With the appro­pri­ate tools and peo­ple to help guide you through it all, you will find the per­son you are seek­ing who loves every­thing, even your career, about you. If you find a guy you really like who makes less than you do, make sure you do not treat your careers like a con­test. There are other top­ics that can be dis­cussed other than career, so nav­i­gate towards them. Encour­age them in get­ting to know every­thing about you other than the size of your income. If you feel like the con­ver­sa­tion is cross­ing towards your career, gear it towards sim­i­lar­i­ties that you both share, such as hob­bies and pas­times. There are many ways in find­ing a part­ner in the world of sin­gles. How­ever, try­ing to find sin­gle men who are not put off by a woman who makes more than them, is a chal­lenge. Using a match­mak­ing ser­vices are a great way to fig­ure out if the man will get dis­cour­aged by this. Match­mak­ers inter­view their clients closely, and know what are they are look­ing for in a future part­ner. If you find a good match­mak­ing ser­vice, they will know the men who are fine with dat­ing sin­gle ladies who might make more than they do. You will also be highly suc­cess­ful in find­ing the guy who won’t let that be a deal breaker.

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Who Wants the Perfect Guy? Not Many Women


2009
10.12

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All of your friends, cowork­ers, and fam­ily keep telling you that they don’t under­stand why you are still sin­gle if you are quite a catch. You’re attrac­tive, suc­cess­ful, and are always up for a good time. There­fore, you decide to go to one of the online dat­ing sites, go out more, or hire a match­maker in hopes that you will find the right per­son. It should be easy for you, but then again, you remain sin­gle. Why? You keep won­der­ing how some­one like you is still sin­gle when you have so much going for you. The prob­lem is not you. It might be how you are going about it. You see your­self as a good catch so you should try to find some­one who will be a won­der­ful and sup­port­ing part­ner. You never want to set­tle for sec­ond best, espe­cially in love, so you should try to put your­self in a posi­tion to asso­ciate with high-caliber, suc­cess­ful sin­gles. Being selec­tive is great, but you don’t want exclude a won­der­ful per­son just because he/she does not quite fit your criteria.

Prob­lem One: You are too selec­tive in who you want to meet

All of us have some type of check­list that we use when seek­ing a part­ner. How­ever, some of us have exten­sive check­lists with con­tra­dic­tory items that make it impos­si­ble for us to find a real per­son. If you have too many deal break­ers on a check­list, then you are never going to find some­one who has even at least 80% of what you list.

Solu­tion: Elim­i­nate some items from the checklist.

Write down your check­list on a piece of paper. Go down the list and really think about what is impor­tant for you to have in a part­ner. Online dat­ing makes it easy for you to check too many attrib­utes you want the other per­son to have. When you meet some­one ran­domly, you don’t really get to go through your check­list. When you go on a date with that per­son, you might real­ize that you wasted time on some­one who didn’t even remotely come close to the per­son you are seek­ing. A match­mak­ing ser­vice is another alter­na­tive that gives you the strengths of both. You talk with a match­maker who is able to tell you if your check­list is unre­al­is­tic and if you need to trim down. It’s time that you start think­ing about what is impor­tant for the per­son you are seek­ing to have, and not have way too many things on your checklist.

Prob­lem Two: Go to the places peo­ple you want to find hang out

If you want to meet a suc­cess­ful pro­fes­sional like your­self, then you need to go to the places you would find these peo­ple hang­ing out at. This doesn’t mean the dive down the street you love to fre­quent, or the bar that becomes a total meat mar­ket at night. You are look­ing for high-quality peo­ple like your­self who could poten­tially be a per­fect fit for you.

Solu­tion: Hang out where pro­fes­sion­als would hang

You need to head to the places like cof­fee shops, pro­fes­sional happy hours, and the restau­rants where every­one rushes to get some food before head­ing back to work. If you don’t know, then ask your friends and cowork­ers to see where the hot spots are to find the right per­son you are seek­ing to date. Another good ref­er­ence is match­mak­ers. It’s their job to find out where the places where high-quality peo­ple hang out, so why not check with them to see where you should go.

Prob­lem Three: You rely on chance instead of tak­ing a sophis­ti­cated approach to find the right person

You are extremely busy, so you don’t have the time to look for a life-long part­ner. There­fore, you rely on luck and chance for you meet the right per­son. You try online dat­ing because that is the quick­est way to have tons of sin­gles read­ily avail­able. Alter­na­tively, you hope that one day when you are out and about with friends, you will bump into the love of your life. Wrong! Unless you get out there and find a win­ning approach to find that per­son, you are prob­a­bly more often that not going to remain single.

Solu­tion: Start think­ing of ways to find the right person

This is a deci­sion that will affect the rest of your future, so why are you tak­ing it lightly? If you are too busy to seek the right per­son or are clue­less on how to begin, there are many alter­na­tives to help you along the way. Online dat­ing deliv­ers instant prospects that you can sift through and see which ones are the most attrac­tive to you. If you start fre­quent­ing places that pro­fes­sion­als go, then you might have a chance of find­ing some­one as well. A match­maker will do all the leg­work for you and dia­gram a blue­print on the approach to take that is com­fort­able for you. You are able to meet high-quality peo­ple, like your­self, while still focus­ing on other aspects of your life.


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How Do I Find a Matchmaker? Why Do I Need One?


2009
10.08

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Millionaire Matchmaker

You meet some­one at a bar or online and decide to go on a first date. The date is a dis­as­ter because you don’t have any­thing in com­mon, your date mis­rep­re­sented himself/herself, or you real­ize that you are look­ing for dif­fer­ent things. Sound famil­iar? Dat­ing can be a lonely and stress­ful process, espe­cially for peo­ple who want to find love. Wouldn’t it be nice to have some­one there the entire time offer­ing advice, lis­ten­ing to your needs, and help­ing you find a long-term rela­tion­ship that fits for you? If you answered yes, then you should con­sider hir­ing a matchmaker.

Match­mak­ers might not work for every­one. They focus on peo­ple who are look­ing for value rela­tion­ships that will stand the test of time. You could think of match­mak­ers as head­hunters in love. They are work­ing along­side you to help you find the appro­pri­ate can­di­dates for the posi­tion of being your val­ued long-term part­ner. Do you think a For­tune 500 com­pany would hire a CEO to run an entire com­pany using Craigslist? Or would they seek a head­hunter who will pro­vide them the high­est qual­ity of ser­vice to find the per­son with the appro­pri­ate skills, knowl­edge, and per­son­al­ity to fill the position.

Find the per­son to share the rest of your life with is a life-long deci­sion. You are going to be shar­ing your life with this per­son, so you want to ensure that you have cho­sen the right per­son for the job. Hir­ing a match­maker can be expen­sive. How­ever, when you think about the time and money you invest in any other sit­u­a­tion, you are prob­a­bly spend­ing more than hir­ing some­one who will save you from all the headache and time you would have wasted. Addi­tion­ally, match­mak­ers add a per­sonal touch that is miss­ing in other dat­ing alter­na­tives. They are like a close friend who intro­duces you who they believe will be a per­fect match.

You are prob­a­bly won­der­ing how to find a qual­ity match­maker in your area. Here are some tips:

  1. Ask Around – Match­mak­ers usu­ally work by word of mouth, so don’t be afraid to ask peo­ple around you if they know of any match­mak­ers in the area
  2. Do An Online Search – If you can’t find any­one who knows of good match­mak­ers, then go online. You might find their web site, pro­files on them, or reviews
  3. Inter­view Them Care­fully – You are look­ing for the per­son who will help you find a life-long part­ner. Ask about their cre­den­tials, past clients, and references
  4. Have Good Lis­ten­ing Skills – You will be spend­ing money to find a match­maker. Make sure that he/she lis­tens to your needs, wants, and desires. If he/she does not seem to be pay atten­tion or is con­stantly talk­ing over you, then it won’t work
  5. High Level of Patience – Match­mak­ers need to have per­fect the art of patience. They should not rush you or their efforts in find­ing a match

There are many alter­na­tives to find­ing a long-term rela­tion­ship. How­ever, the best method is using a match­maker who will pro­vide you a the high­est qual­ity ser­vice with a per­sonal touch.

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Top Three Reasons Attractive Women Remain Single


2009
10.06

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Marisa Miller

 

Ask peo­ple who are actively seek­ing a mate what they think about the dat­ing scene, and they will usu­ally answer that it’s a jun­gle out there. How­ever, if you ask who they think prob­a­bly has the hard­est time find­ing some­one, they would prob­a­bly never guess that it’s prob­a­bly very attrac­tive women. How is it pos­si­ble if they have the looks that will make any man want her by his side? The truth is that usu­ally beau­ti­ful women remain sin­gle longer than any­one. The rea­sons are the mis­con­cep­tions and fear of rejec­tion that cause men not to approach them. Men have anx­i­ety that par­a­lyzes and pre­vents them from tak­ing the first step when it they think a woman is very attrac­tive. This fear com­bined with their belief that these women are out of their league are the main cul­prits of why highly attrac­tive women remain single.

Rea­son #1: She is prob­a­bly a snob

The first thing you have to real­ize is that every­one can be a snob. Just because some­one has above-average looks, it doesn’t auto­mat­i­cally make them this snob­bish indi­vid­ual who thinks she is bet­ter than every­one. Sta­pling some­one as a snob because they are attrac­tive to many peo­ple is the first mis­take that needs to be corrected.

Solu­tion: Focus on her per­son­al­ity

Focus on her per­son­al­ity. If you are doing online dat­ing, then instead of nar­row­ing in on her looks, pay atten­tion to all of the details on her pro­file. Or if you see her at a bar, then let go of your fear of rejec­tion and take the risk to say hello. Pay atten­tion to her body lan­guage and con­ver­sa­tion. She might sur­prise you.

If you feel that you don’t’ want to take the risk of the unknown, then con­sider hir­ing a match­maker. He/she will bring a per­sonal touch to a daunt­ing dat­ing process because every­one is screened and matched by their cri­te­ria, per­son­al­ity, and inter­ests. You are intro­duced to some­one with­out know­ing how she looks like, so it takes a load off of you.

Rea­son #2: Her stan­dards are prob­a­bly very high

Another mis­con­cep­tion about good-looking women is that their stan­dards are way too high. Men usu­ally think that they want that make a cer­tain level of income and can give them the world. Every­one has stan­dards and a check­list of the per­son that they are seek­ing to date. How­ever, just by someone’s appear­ance, you are not able to really know what her stan­dards are.

Solu­tion: Pay atten­tion to the per­son she is seek­ing

Read between the lines as to the type of per­son she is seek­ing. With an online pro­file, you are able to read the type of check­list she is look­ing for. If you see her at a bar, then pay atten­tion to who she is eye­ing. If she is look­ing at the guy who is throw­ing money around, then maybe your per­cep­tion was right. How­ever, if she is star­ing at you, then go make the first attempt. The worst she can say is no. If you are using a match­maker, then he/she will talk to her about what she is look­ing for. You might be shocked to see that your per­cep­tion was wrong when the beau­ti­ful woman is on a date with you.

Rea­son #3: Maybe I am not good enough for her

Men think that there is no way they are good enough to be with highly attrac­tive women. She is prob­a­bly very high main­te­nance and gets lav­ished with gifts. Also, she prob­a­bly gets asked out con­stantly on all these amaz­ing adven­tures. Men usu­ally think what can I offer this woman if I were to begin dat­ing her.

Solu­tion: Think about what you can offer her

Regard­less of the way you meet some­one, the first step is to let go of pre­con­ceived notions that could pre­vent you from actu­ally mak­ing a con­nec­tion. It doesn’t mat­ter what a per­son looks like. You will never know if you are good enough for her unless you make a move. Regard­less if you meet her online or at a bar, then see what her inter­ests are. She might sur­prise you. A match­maker will fil­ter for you the kind of peo­ple who you would be com­pat­i­ble. It takes a weight off of your shoul­ders in seek­ing the right per­son to date.

Online dat­ing and casual encoun­ters can be effec­tive way for very attrac­tive women to find a sig­nif­i­cant other. By using an online dat­ing ser­vice, one is able to cre­ate a pro­file and have their words express what she is look­ing for. Men who are look­ing at her pro­file will see that he might be her type and take the risk of mes­sag­ing her. A casual encounter, such as a bar, allows very attrac­tive women to let their per­son­al­ity shine through. Their body lan­guage and ges­tures can reas­sure men that they are gen­uine peo­ple who are down-to-earth. One good solu­tion that com­bines these two meth­ods is using a matchmaker.

Match­mak­ers pro­vide a non-threatening envi­ron­ment where peo­ple can feel a per­sonal con­nec­tion with a com­mu­nity who is able to assist them in find­ing a con­nec­tion with another indi­vid­ual. They pro­vide a per­sonal touch because they meet the peo­ple face-to-face and are able to get a sense of who would be a good match for them. This gives it a feel of an inti­mate friend intro­duc­ing you to some­one instead of other meth­ods that can increase mis­con­cep­tions about a per­son based on their looks.

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