Loneliness is defined as : affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome.
Whitney Houston once sang “I’d rather be alone than unhappy. ”
Oh really? Being lonely is such a tough emotion to describe and to come to terms with. I know many a married people who suffer from extreme loneliness. Even someone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend can be lonely. I could be sitting next to my best friend in life and have my heart ache from loneliness. People turn to drugs and alcohol to combat the lonely feeling. People stay in marriages to avoid being alone. People change who they are to run from that lonely feeling.
In my younger years I hung out with a crew just so I would not be alone. It took me two or three years to wake up and realize it’s ok to go to the movies alone … It’s ok to eat at a restaurant alone. All of this because of the fear of being alone. The scientific term for this is monophobia. I can’t lie though. My biggest fear in life is growing old alone. Scares me half to death. How sad would that be?
Personally, I don’t know the cure for lonliness. I figure some self confidence, diverse set of hobbies, and some good friends on speed dial or buddy list is a good start. I will caution you though, it is not the cure all. I have a good amount of self confidence, very high quality friends and some cool hobbies yet I suffer from a case of being lonely on many, many nights.
One of my favorite movie scenes that indirectly speaks about being alone is from the movie “Bounce” with Gwenneth Paltrow and Ben Affleck. Heis character talks about simply wanting a “last call” at night. Not the last call from a bar when it is almost time to go, but rather someone to talk to right before you go to bed. A last call. Speaking to this person eases your mind and eliminates any lonely feeling in your subconscious before dozing off to sleep. I would love a last call.
This post may seem a bit rambling but that is exactly how a lonely persons mind functions. So many questions pop up. So many random thoughts trickle through their head. Like a mile a minute. And then … The questions stop … The thoughts stop … And you are alone …
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