Yep, I am talk­ing about those things that you just can’t let pass you by with a poten­tial mate. Here are most of mine. Tell me what you think!

1) Racist — I def­i­nitely can’t tol­er­ate some­one who openly or even pri­vately has a dis­taste for a spe­cific eth­nic group. This is not healthy and down­right scary in the days and times we live in.

2) Over­weight — Call me shal­low or call me hyp­o­crit­i­cal but I just can’t get with some­one who is over­weight. I have tried before and because of my healthy lifestyle it just doesn’t work for me.

3) Vain — I men­tion this in terms of some­one who is so focused on how peo­ple look, makeup and con­stantly in the mir­ror. I am refer­ring to peo­ple who are over the top with this. You know who they are. If that is the case, show me the door. I’m out.

4) Not inde­pen­dent - When I speak about this, I am not talk­ing about the ladies who could be liv­ing at home because of cer­tain finan­cial or life sit­u­a­tions. I am speak­ing about the young ladies who have to get moms or pops approval before they make any deci­sion at all. “Should I go to the movies? Let me go ask my mom.”  “Should i buy this new jacket? Let me call my dad.”  Basi­cally, if you are liv­ing your life for the 100% approval of moms and/or dad with every deci­sion, it’s time for me to tap out.

5) No career goals — This is not refer­ring to if you want to stay home while kids are young. I am refer­ring to ladies who are just work­ing to work and have no goals for them­selves to grow into a career. It could be as an artist, a politi­cian, a man­ager of a retail store … but career goals are a neces­sity. I need you to push me to climb higher and higher for us.

6) No con­cept of the con­se­quences of spend­ing money/budgeting — One of the main rea­sons for divorce is finances and money. If you love to shop and charge up the credit card and then are clue­less about why the lights are out because we had to pay off the credit card bill, per­haps you aren’t the one for me. I am all for spend­ing money and treat­ing your­self , but it has to fit into some­what of the group budget.

7) Con­sis­tent poor gram­mar — Now if you didn’t grow up here in the United States and are still learn­ing the lan­guage, you can get a pass on this one because Eng­lish is con­fus­ing to many peo­ple who didn’t grow up in the lan­guage. How­ever, if you do not fall into this cat­e­gory, please be able to speak prop­erly. It would just bother me to no end if you kept split­ting your verbs and talk­ing in the past and present tense in one sentence.

8 ) Has Chil­dren- This one is down the list for a rea­son. As I get older, I have to be more and more flex­i­ble with this rule because life hap­pens. I have been there before and I am really, really not sure if I want to go there again.

That is my list. What do you think? Is this list above the rea­son why I am still sin­gle?? Let me know.